TY - GEN AU - Bancroft,Lundy TI - Why does he do that? : : inside the minds of angry and controlling men SN - 0425191656 PY - 2003/// CY - New York PB - Berkley KW - Violence in the home N2 - "He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control." "He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..." Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counsellor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with: the early warning signs; nine abusive personality types; how to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will; the role of drugs and alcohol; what can be fixed, and what can't; how to leave a relationship safely ER -